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Husband and Wife

 

Spousal EncouragementIn 1849, when Nathaniel Hawthorne was dismissed from his government job in the customs house, he went home in despair. His wife listened to his tale of woe, set pen and ink on the table, lit the fire, put her arms around his shoulders and said, “Now you will be able to write your novel.” Hawthorne did—and literature was enriched with ‘The Scarlet Letter’.

 

Spousal EncouragementKatherine, the wife of Martin Luther, dramatically revived the depressed Reformer’s confidence in God’s providence. This has been versified by F.W. Herzberger:

            One day when skies loomed the blackest,

            This greatest and bravest of men

            Lost heart and in an oversad spirit

            Refused to take courage again,

            Neither eating or drinking nor speaking

            To anxious wife, children or friends,

            Till Katherine dons widow garments

            And deepest of mourning pretends.

            Surprised, Luther asked why she sorrowed.

            “Dear Doctor,” his Katie replied,

            “I have cause for the saddest of weeping,

            For God in His heaven has died!”

            Her gentle rebuke did not fail him,

            He laughingly kissed his wise spouse,

            Took courage, and banished his sorrow,

            And joy again reigned in the house.

 

Duty of HusbandsThe Most Important Thing

   Men's Life magazine surprised itself with a survey -- asked its readers "What's the most important thing in your life?"  And no, it was not sex, it was not career, it was neither fame nor fortune. 

The most important things to 63 percent of the men were their wives and ninety percent of married men called their wives their best friend. --Associated Press, 9/4/90

 

BitternessThe elderly couple had been married for 50 years - 50 full years of misery.  They had fought every day of their marriage.  It was the typical standoff:  she said she would change when he did, and he said he would change when she did.

   The couple's children threw a 50th wedding anniversary party for them.  After the celebration had ended and the guests were gone, the wife turned to her husband and said, "We've lived together for 50 years, but its been miserable.  We've fought every day."

   She paused.  "Now I think it's time to change.  In fact, I've been praying that things would change.  I've been praying that the Lord would take one of us home.  And when he answers my prayer...I'm going to go live with my sister in Grand Rapids!"

 

DivorceDissolving a marriage is not like dissolving a business partnership, or even like deserting from the army. Indeed, many psychologists have stated that it is second in emotional impact only to the death of a spouse.

 

DivorceOn a television show, “Divorce Wars,” a thriving divorce lawyer found himself on the brink of divorce, even though he strongly believed in family life. As he began to ponder why his marriage was falling apart, he asked a friend the following question: “Max, how did you stay married for thirty five years?”

        Max, being older, had a rather illuminating answer: “I guess in our generation we didn’t expect as much from each other—and we ended up getting more.

 

Divorce”I will never marry again”—said by Barbara Hutton (who was at the time heiress to the forty-five-million-dollar Woolworth fortune), after divorcing her second husband, Count Kurt Heinrich Haughwitz-Hardenberg-Reventlow, in 1941.

        “I will never marry again. You can’t go on being a fool forever”—said by Barbara Hutton, after divorcing her third husband, Cary Grant, in 1945.

        “This is positively my final marriage”—said by Barbra Hutton, after marrying her sixth husband, Baron Gottfried von Kramm, in 1955.

        “He’s a composite of all my previous husbands’ best qualities without any of the bad qualities… I have never been so happy in my life”—said by Barbra Hutton, after marrying her seventh husband, Prince Doan Vinh de Champacak of Vietnam, in 1964

        In November, 1966 Barbra Hutton and Prince Doan Vinh de Champacak of Vietnam filed for divorce.

 

Divorce Sylvester Stallone, filmdom’s “Rocky,” was quoted by Sports Illustrated as saying, “Boxing is a great exercise—as long as you can yell ‘cut’ whenever you want to.”

        Many people go into marriage the same way. They figure it’s great mental, emotional, or even physical exercise as long as you can cut out whenever you want to!

 

Effect of DivorceThe results of a 1978 survey reveal that the main causes of loneliness usually have their origins in childhood. Children who were less than six years of age when parents were divorced were by far the loneliest as adults.

 

Effect of DivorceThe conclusion of a five-year study by Mavis Hetherington of the University of Virginia on who is most hurt in a divorce is that ‘small boys are the worst victims of divorce and their painful attempts to adjust often lead them into a mutually destructive conflict with their mothers.”

 

Responsibility for Divorce”As a pastor in three different churches, encompassing twenty-eight years, I’m beginning to wonder if there is such a thing as an innocent party.”—Dr. Stephen Olford.

 

FoolishnessIvana and Donald Trump have signed yet another legal document allowing both to date other people without influencing any subsequent divorce proceedings. --Associated Press,  4-25-90